Different Attachment Styles and What They Say About You
It is extremely important for you to know and understand your attachment style because it supplies you with insight into why you respond the way you do to perceived emotional disengagement.
Now, that sure is a mouthful, isn’t it?
However, it’s quite easy to understand and catch on to.
It is crucial for you to know your attachment style for any current and future relationships. Who knows, it might just come in handy when you least expect it to.
Additionally, knowing about the different attachment styles may also help you with your children. Knowing their styles can help you better comprehend what is going on in their lives.
In this way, your style, along with that of your kids, influences how you parent. Let’s get into the attachment styles in Leavenworth and Overland Park, KS, and what they mean for you.
The Attachment Styles
Secure
A secure attachment style means that you want to be close to another person, but at the same time, you also are not overly sensitive to rejection. You tend to be able to hear conflict with an open mind, and you take things in stride. Perhaps, you don’t tend to worry too much about your relationships, as they are not your main concern. Finally, you respond best to emotional cues for connection. Secure attachment is the less common of the two main types, as most people are not this confident in their relationships, which is completely normal.
Insecure
There are two different subtypes of insecure attachment.
Type number one is anxious. This means that you sometimes have a fear that your partner does not want to be as close to you as you would like for them to be. You also are likely to be extremely sensitive to very small fluctuations in your partner’s (or family member’s) mood and actions.
The second type of insecure attachment is avoidant. In this case, you often feel uncomfortable with too much closeness and have a tendency to keep your partner at arm's length. Opening up can be extremely difficult for you, so you keep most feelings and emotions to yourself. You also have low worry about relationships or being rejected. Additionally, you are always on high alert for any warning signs of control on your territory by your partner or loved one.
Questions to Consider about Attachment Styles
So, what attachment style sounds most like you?
Do you have mixed signs from a bunch of different categories?
Which one did you relate to the most?
Find Your Attachment Style
There are so many different ways to find out your own attachment style. These include taking a free online quiz for quick and accurate results or talking to a therapist who will analyze your habits to determine your style.
Determine your partner, friend, or family member’s style. Along with understanding your own, knowing other people’s styles can help you to find the best way to make your relationship work. Being in the know of what works for the both of you will ensure that you work together to be comfortable with each other.
Don’t focus too much on the behaviors that you see, focus on emotional responses. Instead of analyzing the actions of your loved ones, talk to them about how they feel about certain experiences.
Practice self-awareness so that you are more aware of how you respond to these emotions. The more self-aware you are, the more aware you will be of yourself. Duh. In all seriousness, it will increase your awareness of others as well, making it easier for you to communicate and build relationships.
Begin Counseling With JS Therapy Group
Do you need help figuring out your attachment style? The therapists at JS Therapy Group can help you get back on track or just make some tune-ups. Our therapists have offices in Overland Park, KS, and Leavenworth, KS. To start counseling in Overland Park, KS, and Leavenworth, KS, follow these simple steps:
Contact JS Therapy Group and speak to our awesome Client Care Coordinator
Meet with one of our caring therapists
Start living your life in a more healthy way!
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