So many misconceptions are thrown around about what depression is and why we experience the symptoms.
Depression is so much more than just the feelings of sadness (and other similar emotions). It is a complex brain condition that is difficult for even scientists to understand.
Read MoreMany people believe that if they simply communicate better in a relationship, then the relationship will automatically improve as well. However, this is not entirely true. Others say that you need specific communication skills for a healthy relationship.
This problem with communication is not an acquisition issue, rather, it is an access issue. In other words, developing communication skills isn’t what is needed in the situation. One must simply use the ability to communicate effectively, which is already owned.
But when you are in a fight or disagreement with your partner, you likely are not in your prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for more complex actions (like planning and forethought).
Read MoreA few weeks ago my family and I went on a family vacation. We had a great time and I remembered a valuable lesson.
Read MoreLet's talk a little bit about relationships. Have you ever gotten into an argument with your partner or even your teen and then afterward thought to yourself, "that escalated so fast"? Or maybe you and your partner or you and your teen get caught up in the cycle of yelling and pulling away from each other. That would be the work of your working models and your attachment behavioral system.
Read MoreIt is extremely important for you to know and understand your attachment style because it supplies you with insight into why you respond the way you do to perceived emotional disengagement. Now, that sure is a mouthful isn’t it? However, it’s quite easy to understand and catch on to.
Read MoreWe as parents always do what we think is best for our children. Sometimes, however, what we think is best for them may not always be the right parenting decision. Our decisions can backfire on us, making us see our kids as impossible and frustrating. We can’t help that we can’t always make the right choices for our kids.
However….
Read MoreThere are a number of reasons for which we are writing this blog. Unfortunately, not many people are aware that there are available therapy services that are affordable and fit their budget.
For some people, an affordable option is a must have because they either don’t have insurance or simply can’t cover the seemingly outrageous costs of therapy treatment.
Others have extremely high deductibles that they just don’t have the means to pay.
Do any of these situations apply to you? What about someone that you know and love?
If that is the case, our affordable counseling option might be perfect for you!
This helps make sure that you don’t blow out your bank account simply because you need help. Everyone should be able to seek help when they need it, no matter the amount of money in their bank account.
Read MoreHave you ever noticed how sometimes you get caught up in the same kinds of relationships? Maybe it’s with a person who might be called “needy.” Or maybe it’s with a person who ends up ghosting you.
All relationships, whether they end well or badly, offer valuable life lessons. We can learn from the mistakes that we made and continue the habits that made the relationship run smoothly.
Read MoreMany people believe that for a healthy lasting relationship, the only essential is basic communication skills.
However, if you and your partner want a lasting change for the better, more effort is needed.
To do this, we need a second order change, or a change to our emotional foundation. This changes our mental and emotional domains.
Read MoreWhen traumatic events happen to a child, it can be difficult for educators, administrators, parents, and other family members to know how to help them understand and work through what has happened.
As caring adults, our minds fill up with so many questions about how we can help the child while managing our own reactions that everything can suddenly become overwhelming, making things feel out of our control adding to the problem.
Read MoreMany parents wonder why they find it so difficult to communicate with their teenagers, or why their teens do not come to them with their problems. You may have experienced this in your own home, which is why the relationship that you have with your teen may be becoming strained. This is likely making you feel extremely frustrated toward the teen in your life, but remember that your teen has their own feelings that they need to work through. There is a high probability that they are just as frustrated as you are with the situation. For this reason, it is crucial that you make an active effort to listen to what they have to say.
Read MoreIf you are like most families today.. you are probably spending a lot of additional time together because of the changes brought on by the Covid-19 pandemic. Now wouldn’t it be amazing if all the time spent together was peaches and cream?!?! I know I would love that!
Unfortunately, this added time together for some families has caused more tension, arguments, and negativity. You wonder if you will ever get through a day without a fight. You wonder how to get your kids to listen and do what they are told to do. You wonder how to get your teen to talk to you! To make matters even worse…now there is an additional barrier because it may not feel safe to find a therapist in person.
Read More2020 was a rough year for everyone, including children. You may have noticed changes in your child over the course of the year that make you wonder if she is coping well with the stresses of the pandemic.
Your once happy, go with the flow child, is now not so happy and unexpected changes can send him spiraling into a fit.
You wonder if you should seek out counseling for your child. You know what to expect counseling to look like for an adult.
But what does counseling look like for your 3-5-9 year old?
Read MoreWhen we first get together with our partner, it’s a magical time. There’s a passion and fire that is undeniable. You can’t keep your hands off each other. When you touch or receive touch, it send shivers along your body. It’s electric. It makes us feel whole.
But over time, work, families, or other obligations demand so much of your time and energy that it’s harder to make the time for intimacy and touch.
Read MoreBut…we are here to help. Thanks to one of our student interns, we are happy to offer a FREE DOWNLOAD on daily reminders. You know…just like the cruise ships….only without the COVID-19. Thank goodness for that!
Read MoreOf course it’s nearly impossible to feel happy 100% of the time. We’ll also add it’s not healthy to feel happy 100% of the time. We must experience a wide range of emotions. But, nothing is wrong with feeling happy a great deal of the time.
Let’s examine some ways to increase happiness:
Read MoreMaybe you can relate.
Sometimes it might seem like no matter what you say, it is the wrong thing. Or maybe it might seem like no matter what you say, you can't get through to your partner.
Well, we talk about some of these struggles.
Read MoreAdolescence. It is a very exciting time for both teens and parents. Teens begin to become people with ideas and humor. They really begin to develop their personalities. A lot of great things happen during adolescence. AND…a lot of scary things happen during adolescence.
Read MoreWhether you are thinking of an intimate relationship or a work relationship, having more positive interactions increases emotional safety and security in a relationship.
Read MoreHave you ever had this happen? You and a friend are talking about something you both saw on TV. Let's say it was one of the Shondra shows....who doesn't love those….
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