Tips for a Healthy Relationship with Your Teen

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Adolescence. It is a very exciting time for both teens and parents. Teens begin to become people with ideas and humor. They really begin to develop their personalities. A lot of great things happen during adolescence. AND…a lot of scary things happen during adolescence.

Teens are becoming individuals, are more interested in their friends and sometimes make really BAD choices! Naturally, parents would want to pull their teens closer…but this does not always have the best impact.

Learn How to Survive the Teen Years

Parents need to learn how to survive the teen years without damaging the relationship between the parent and teen. Unfortunately, parents of teen often think they are doing the right thing by giving consequences, taking away electronics and grounding their teen. But…does this help…or does this harm…your relationship?

 
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Jessica Schroeder is a Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist and Registered Play Therapist-Supervisor in private practice in historic downtown Leavenworth, Kansas. Jessica specializes in Couples Therapy and Trauma with adults and children.

 
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Emma Cannon is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist by temporary license in private practice in Overland Park, Kansas. Emma works with individuals, couples and families through an attachment perspective.

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