If we were to ask you what goes into making a healthy relationship, what would you say? A quick Google search reveals the following: curiosity, trust, communication, empathy, affection, patience, respect, and honesty…just to list a few.
Well, listen….we couldn’t disagree more!
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Many of you have likely seen “The Break-Up” starring Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn. The famous fighting scene shows the couple bantering back and forth about everything that the other does that upsets them, specifically things that aren’t brought up when they are seen.
Read MoreFifty percent of initial marriages, sixty- seven of the next, and a massive seventy three percent of third marriages fail. These are all extremely high numbers when we are talking about the massive commitment that relationships (especially when it gets to the marriage stage) are.
We all want our relationships to be successful, and tell ourselves that we will never go as far as divorce.
Read MoreCongratulations! You’re engaged, and you couldn’t be happier. Everything is going just as you hoped and dreamed that it would.
There is so much to do and even more to plan for the big day, which is taking way too long to arrive.
All of you and your partner’s focus is going towards details, details, details. Everything has to be absolutely perfect when that long awaited day finally arrives, with nothing to mess it up!
However, in all of this hustle and bustle, couples tend to overlook the most important aspect of all; their own relationship with each other.
Read MoreFrom time to time, I couples who see some small improvements in their relationship and decide to quit counseling right after, thinking that they have accomplished the goals that they came to achieve. They feel like they are communicating better or listening to each other better.
Makes sense that some people would want to discontinue marriage counseling or couples counseling. But….it’s important to be aware that this is still too early to graduate from therapy.
Therapists often try to warn couples that despite seeing small changes (and things being a little bit better) that continuation is necessary to make the new habits and practices truly stick.
Read MoreIf you’ve seen our blogs in the past, you may have already read about what EMDR is and some of its benefits.
As a reminder, EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing and is an evidenced based practice for PTSD and trauma treatment.
In this blog, we will take a look at some of the possible scenarios and populations that could be benefitted by using EMDR.
Read MoreLGBTQ+ History Month is a celebration (lasting the month of October) of the history of the LGBTQ+ community (pretty self explanatory name). It celebrates how important rights movements were to the progression of acceptance and equality of all lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer people in society, and how far along with gaining rights the community has come.
Read MoreJust the other day, I was speaking with a friend of mine about how difficult it is to find a good therapist that takes their insurance and has openings in the near future. This is an issue for many people who are seeking out counseling, and in many cases, discourages them from looking any further.
Therapy classes, workshops, and groups are extremely beneficial and effective. However…
Read MoreThe first thing that comes out of people’s mouths immediately after they learn about the hows and whys of EFT is simple: “More people should know about this!”
With this article, we want to spread the word about how Emotionally Focused Therapy works.
Read MoreSo many misconceptions are thrown around about what depression is and why we experience the symptoms.
Depression is so much more than just the feelings of sadness (and other similar emotions). It is a complex brain condition that is difficult for even scientists to understand.
Read MoreOn September 26, one of the most underrated holidays is celebrated: Love Note Day. As the name indicates, it includes sending love letters (a little more on the corny side) to your significant other and showing your affection in many different ways. Whether this means a short and simple note or a long and heartfelt letter, it is always nice to feel like you are appreciated and loved.
Read MoreSo much is accomplished through the internet nowadays (just about everything)- maybe even more than occurs in person. Whether we are ready for it or not, online therapy is here; and it is definitely here for the long haul.
Read MoreMany people believe that if they simply communicate better in a relationship, then the relationship will automatically improve as well. However, this is not entirely true. Others say that you need specific communication skills for a healthy relationship.
This problem with communication is not an acquisition issue, rather, it is an access issue. In other words, developing communication skills isn’t what is needed in the situation. One must simply use the ability to communicate effectively, which is already owned.
But when you are in a fight or disagreement with your partner, you likely are not in your prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for more complex actions (like planning and forethought).
Read MoreA few weeks ago my family and I went on a family vacation. We had a great time and I remembered a valuable lesson.
Read MoreLet's talk a little bit about relationships. Have you ever gotten into an argument with your partner or even your teen and then afterward thought to yourself, "that escalated so fast"? Or maybe you and your partner or you and your teen get caught up in the cycle of yelling and pulling away from each other. That would be the work of your working models and your attachment behavioral system.
Read MoreIt is extremely important for you to know and understand your attachment style because it supplies you with insight into why you respond the way you do to perceived emotional disengagement. Now, that sure is a mouthful isn’t it? However, it’s quite easy to understand and catch on to.
Read MoreWe as parents always do what we think is best for our children. Sometimes, however, what we think is best for them may not always be the right parenting decision. Our decisions can backfire on us, making us see our kids as impossible and frustrating. We can’t help that we can’t always make the right choices for our kids.
However….
Read MoreNot many people really slow down to stop and think about why they do what they do. We do so many things every single day without ever thinking about the why behind it. Even seemingly meaningless tasks can have a deeper meaning, if we only stopped to think.
Read MoreThere are a number of reasons for which we are writing this blog. Unfortunately, not many people are aware that there are available therapy services that are affordable and fit their budget.
For some people, an affordable option is a must have because they either don’t have insurance or simply can’t cover the seemingly outrageous costs of therapy treatment.
Others have extremely high deductibles that they just don’t have the means to pay.
Do any of these situations apply to you? What about someone that you know and love?
If that is the case, our affordable counseling option might be perfect for you!
This helps make sure that you don’t blow out your bank account simply because you need help. Everyone should be able to seek help when they need it, no matter the amount of money in their bank account.
Read MoreHave you ever noticed how sometimes you get caught up in the same kinds of relationships? Maybe it’s with a person who might be called “needy.” Or maybe it’s with a person who ends up ghosting you.
All relationships, whether they end well or badly, offer valuable life lessons. We can learn from the mistakes that we made and continue the habits that made the relationship run smoothly.
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